I’ve been having a lot of these conversations lately in all my circles – diversity, empowerment, privilege, inclusion and there’s a lot to think about – the many layers to this topic. I came across this extremely interesting article Women’s Work and I can’t wait to read the book. It’s a disproportionate world and I have and still do lie on both sides of privilege at different times in my life.
Another thought-provoking article along the same lines as the previous one I shared was written about the recent college admissions scam. I do what I can for my kids within what I think is lawful but it’s a system that’s fundamentally flawed. Would I do anything unlawful to put us ahead? Absolutely not. Will I stop doing what I can to get my family the best opportunities because it’s a systemic issue flawed with inequities? Probably not. Once again privilege. I’ve been on both sides of it.
A woman asked a panel of leaders recently at one of the sessions I attended – I’d hate to think I’m being offered something due to my color or gender instead of my merit. What if I’m just a number to be checked? What if I’m not being looked at for my merit? What if it’s not because of but in spite of – the impostor syndrome.
One of the leaders said – we don’t live in a fair world and so trudge forward irrespective so you can at least be that person to open the door to those less fortunate.
Sometimes we are on the flip side, sometimes the upside but what is the alternative? What are your chances of making a difference for the better, to change anything if you stand on the outside appealing to those that hold the power? Do not refuse an opportunity or stand by the wayside because you’re getting what may or may not be some unfair advantage. Use it to challenge it from a position of power. At least that’s the rationale some of us who need to justify or negotiate with our conscience give ourselves. Like the author of this article, I’m grappling with it and also in need of some real introspection.
